Better Masturbation Guide

Which essentials to use for a better masturbation experience

Great news: despite some of the negative connotations of masturbation, most of which are based on outdated education methods, studies show that masturbation is actually really good for us.

The best thing about masturbation is that you are the one who knows best about what you like, so getting the most from masturbation means doing things your way, uninhibited by rules or social norms. It’s all about setting the right mood. Relax, throw in some toys, lube, or even try some anal play if you’re feeling adventurous.

Yes, masturbation is good for you!

It has been proven that masturbation boosts your mood by releasing endorphins, and orgasm is one of the most effective stress relievers. Aside from making you feel good, it also helps you to get to know your own body, increasing your self-confidence and keeping your sex drive up and running.

Typically, it’s normal for people to masturbate at least a couple of times per week, but this varies from person to person based on their situation and sex drive. There’s no fast rule, however. Essentially, doing it when you feel the urge should be completely encouraged – never feel embarrassed if you want to do it more often – you’ve probably just found a great outlet for your stress, so, good for you!

Being in a relationship shouldn’t hinder you, either. Masturbation can be a healthy way to express and maintain your sex drive and fantasy life, and to keep your sexual routine varied. In addition, exploring masturbation with your partner can add a new level to your sexual experience. You and your partner may find it hot to watch each other masturbate. Mutual masturbation is also a great way to pick up tips. Try mimicking their movements in your next foreplay session…

Set the mood and get ready to relax

It is well known that relaxation reduces stress and improves mental health. While relaxation cannot always eliminate the source of stress or worry that plagues you, it can give you a mental break from those feelings, offer a new perspective, and help you cope better.

Think of relaxation as an ongoing process of giving yourself extra time and space whenever possible. Try and make some time for relaxation somewhere in your day as a way to bring your body and mind into balance. We feel more energetic and positive as we relax, breathe deeply, and get our blood flowing.

Masturbation offers you a great way to do this, relieving stress and enhancing your overall well-being. To enjoy your masturbation session to the max, get in the right mood beforehand and be sure to take your time. However, if you find it hard to get in the mood, don’t let this hold you back – an arousal oil may help stimulate you into forgetting about other stresses.

Have some toys ready for your solo session

Solo session with vibrators and dildos

Vibrators and dildos are an excellent way to give your masturbation sessions a kick. First and foremost, choose a toy you feel comfortable with and excited to try – it shouldn’t feel daunting! Bear in mind the type of stimulation you best respond to. For example, you may find it easier to climax from clitoral rather than G-spot stimulation. Toys that stimulate your G-spot and C-spot simultaneously can lead to the most amazing blended orgasms, which you may not be able to achieve with your hand alone – take a look at the dual-stim Love To Love Bunny And Clyde Tapping Rabbit Vibrator (see picture).

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Love To Love Bunny And Clyde Tapping Rabbit Vibrator Pink | Rabbit Vibrator | Love To Love | Bodyjoys
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Bunny and Clyde by Love To Love packs powerful stimulation, giving you a classic rabbit vibrator with an added tapping function to pleasure the G-spot. The smaller vibrating shaft is designed to stimulate your clitoris. You can adjust each independent motor across 10 tapping and 10 vibration modes.

If you like oral sex and are looking for a perfect new playmate for your clit, we recommend the Lelo Sona Sonic Clitoral Massager for a guaranteed fun time (see picture).

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Lelo Sona Sonic Clitoral Massager Pink | Clitoral Suction Vibrator | Lelo | Bodyjoys
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With the pink Lelo Sona sonic massager, Lelo offers a new paradigm of pleasure, with a fluttering, pulsing sex toy that stimulates the entire clitoris for a different kind of orgasm. The sonic waves penetrate deeply throughout the sensitive, nerve-rich clitoral region, bringing you to a prolonged climax after a sensual build-up.

Or if you are looking for a classic dildo with a sturdy suction cup base, check out the RealRock 6 Inch Realistic Crystal Clear Dildo (pictured).

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This pink Crystal Clear 6-inch realistic dildo from RealRock comes with balls and bulging glans for enhanced visual and tactile pleasures. Use the sturdy suction cup base to attach this dong to any smooth surface and enjoy a hands-free pleasure ride, or use with a strap-on harness.

Solo session with male sex toys

Most any sex toy or massager can be for anyone, irrespective of gender, anatomy, or sexual orientation. However, for penis-centred pleasure, broadly speaking, you most likely will want to pick a masturbator (stroker), prostate stimulator, or a Fleshlight. These masturbation toys allow you to hit new heights of sensation and experience intense orgasms that make your toes curl. Check out the Satisfyer Men Vibration Blow Job Masturbator and Rocks-Off 7-Speed O-Boy Prostate Massager (see pictures) to discover sensations that will blow your mind!

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Satisfyer Men Vibration Blow Job Masturbator | Male Vibrator | Satisfyer | Bodyjoys
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The Men Vibration from Satisfyer is a blow job masturbator for men who know what they like. The sophisticated design of this premium male sex toy encloses your manhood in deep vibrations, giving you unbelievable pleasure and explosive orgasms. Choose from 14 tingling vibration patterns, start slow and work your way up to wild, or switch it up depending on your mood.

Rocks-Off 7-Speed O-Boy Prostate Massager Black | Prostate Stimulator | Rocks-Off | Bodyjoys
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The sleek, streamlined and unintimidating O-Boy is designed to maximise prostate pleasure for beginners and experienced pleasure-seekers alike. Its unique lines and expert angles provide a precise fit against the super sensitive P-spot. A 7-speed motor delivers powerful vibrations to the perineum while you play, and the hands-free design leaves you free to enjoy other pleasures.

Or if you are looking for a discreet real-feel stroker for fun in the shower, check out the PDX Plus Shower Therapy Soothing Scrub Masturbator from Pipedream (pictured).

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Don’t compromise on your self-care and enhance your pleasure game with the Shower Therapy Soothing Scrub Masturbator from PDX Plus. Designed with your privacy in mind, the discreet stroker was crafted to mimic the appearance of a regular shower bottle so that it will effortlessly blend into any bathroom without raising suspicion or eyebrows. The realistic masturbator with vagina opening in a light skin colour comes with an inner sleeve that features a super-detailed skin texture and an intricate interior tunnel lined with rows of pleasure nubs that will rock your world!

Solo session with anal sex toys

Don’t forget about anal sex toys, either. Using lots of lube, you can stimulate the erogenous zones within the anus or the prostate using butt plugs, anal beads or anal dildos. If you like the sound of this, opt for the Rocks-Off Pearls Petite Sensations Anal Beads or the 2-piece First Time Crystal Booty Duo Silicone Butt Plug Set (see pictures) to enhance sensation during your solo session.

Rocks-Off Pearls Petite Sensations Anal Beads Black | Anal Beads | Rocks-Off | Bodyjoys
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These black Pearls Petite Sensations anal beads offers intense anal pleasure in an accessible format. The smooth, slim head is great for beginners in anal play, or for those who prefer petite pleasures. This velvety soft silicone butt plug is powered by Rocks-Off’s famous RO-80 bullet vibrator with 7 vibration settings (3 speeds and 4 patterns), which you can also use separately.

First Time Crystal Booty Duo Silicone Butt Plugs Pink 2 Pieces | Butt Plug Set | CalExotics | Bodyjoys
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Explore thrilling backdoor fantasies with the pink First Time Crystal Booty Duo silicone butt plugs. This enticing 2-piece set brought to you by California Exotic is designed to satisfy your desires and provide a safe and comfortable anal experience. With two graduated anal plugs, each featuring a dazzling heart crystal inlay base, curvaceous probe design, and plush silicone body, this kit has everything you need to enhance your pleasure.

Take a look at our sex toy guides for everything you need to know about sex toy fun and how to get the most out of your sex toys during masturbation.

Lube up for enhanced pleasure and sensation

Lube makes any type of sexual stimulation feel better, so spoil yourself with an extra splash of specially designed masturbation lube. Solo session sensations are enhanced when everything is slipping and sliding, turning ordinary pleasure time into something truly astonishing.

Water-based lubes are the best all-rounders for non-greasy self-pleasure. For anal play, you can opt for a thicker anal lube, or for a super slippery silicone-based lube.

Masturbation lubes are often (partly) oil-based and include skin-softening ingredients like aloe vera, which makes them excellent for solo external play and massages. However, we do not recommend using oil-based lubes internally (i.e. in the vagina or anus).

Browse our full range of masturbation lubes and if you’re on the hunt for one that also moisturises your skin, try the Durex Massage Lube Aloe Vera Soothing; a classic is the ID Millennium Silicone Lubricant (see pictures).

Durex Massage Lube Aloe Vera Soothing 200ml | Masturbation Lube | Durex | Bodyjoys
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The Durex Aloe Vera 2-in-1 soothing massage oil and sex lube is a wonderful choice for long-lasting foreplay, masturbation as well as anal and vaginal intercourse. The silky smooth all-rounder gel is soft and gentle on the skin and can be used all over your body as well as your intimate hot spots. The lube’s extra-thick water-based formula is infused with aloe vera and vitamin E to nourish and moisturise your skin.

ID Millennium Silicone Lubricant 65ml | Silicone-Based Lube | ID Lubricants | Bodyjoys
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The ID Millennium silicone lubricant is based on an extremely potent and powerful formula. The slip is so strong and long-lasting that only a few drops will last for hours and the lube will even stay slippery when you play under water. ID states that this lube is never sticky, never dries and never loses slip!