Have you ever wondered what strap-on sex toys are, or why dildos are worn with harnesses? Strap-ons were designed for partnered play where you want to switch roles or change the dynamics of your bedroom routine. Strap-on sex toys can be enjoyed by couples of any sexual orientation.
Strap-on play is a sexual activity in which one partner, wearing a strap-on dildo (or vibrator), penetrates the other, either vaginally or anally. The lesbian community has been enjoying strap-on sex for as long as strap-ons have been around. And there are obviously many other penetration (or double penetration!) scenarios that can be played out between different sexes and orientations. Once you get into strap-on play, the only limit is your imagination.
Pegging is a sex act in which one (usually female) partner performs anal sex on their (usually male) partner using a strap-on dildo. Pegging is not yet a staple in the mainstream sexual repertoire, but we have noticed that this sexual practice is becoming increasingly popular with straight couples — an intriguing option, indeed!
One of the incomprehensible misconceptions about pegging is that only gay men enjoy anal penetration. This is simply nonsense – straight men can and do enjoy the realm of bottoming play too, it simply feels too good to miss out on!
Strap-on sex toys are made for enjoying with your partner. Couples strap them on for numerous reasons:
Strap-on dildos are also wonderful sex aids in circumstances where one partner has erectile dysfunction. Despite this issue, penetration can be achieved by using a hollow strap-on, or by wearing a strap-on above the penis. Couples that were initially reluctant to experiment with strap-ons discovered that, once they tried, it allowed them to eventually find their way back to a satisfying sex life.
To ensure that you don’t get distracted whilst in action, the strap-on needs to feel comfortable, fit properly, and keep the dildo firmly in place. It’s all about hands-free play with this one, so the dildo must hold up against your body, feel fit and secure, and not wobble. This all comes down to choosing the right harness.
Harnesses typically come in styles such as jockstraps, thongs, and underwear similar to boxers, and in a variety of fabrics and materials. Make sure you choose a style and material you know you will feel comfortable wearing.
When choosing the right dildo for your strap-on, start small and safe...and be sure to consult with the receiver to see what they’re into. You can always go bigger! But the first experience should be as pleasant as possible, especially if you’re intending to try the backdoor.
Consider which strap-on style best fits your gender expression. Some are keen to gender their strap-on play with a realistic dildo, and others want their dildo look as neutral or as colourful as possible. With regard to the different types of strap-on dildos (or dildo vibrators) you can choose from, see our dildo guides for comprehensive advice.
Navigating the many different options between dildos and harnesses can be bamboozling. Purchasing a strap-on typically involves buy two things: a dildo, and a harness. If you are new to strap-ons then the best and easiest option is a strap-on set.
The benefits of choosing a dildo and a harness separately is that you get exactly what you desire for your session in terms of style, texture, colour, and material. The wearer can pick their favourite harness, and the receiver can decide on the size (check size chart) and texture of the dildo – fair play!
The main thing to check is that the O-ring on your harness is compatible with the dildo’s diameter. This is the ring through which you tuck the dildo – this needs to be compatible with whatever size dildo you’re going to use. Some harnesses come with O-rings in different sizes, others have elastic rings that can stretch to accommodate different girths.
You may want to prepare yourself by wearing the strap-on for some time before you get started. Get used to how the harness feels on your body, adjust it so that it’s as comfortable as possible, and then bring in the dildo. Get comfortable – get ready!
Have lube handy – use plenty of lube in your dildo play. For anal penetration, remember to use special anal lube, which is longer-lasting and thicker than regular lube. With lubrication in general, the rule of thumb is: use plenty, and when you think you have enough, double it.
Whatever you do in partnered play, do it with your partner’s consent. Take it slow, talk to each other and make sure you’re both having the most enjoyable experience possible. Communication is essential and as you experiment and explore the delights of strap-on sex you will soon find out what works best for you.
Oh, and in regard to popular strap-on positions – doggy style is a permanent favourite. Try both lying on your sides in a spooning position, or let the receiver go on top for maximum control.
Read on to find out about the most popular strap-on devices, and get best informed on how to choose your strap-on gear. If the information seems overwhelming, head straight to our recommendations for each category.
This sleek blue 6-inch Curved silicone dildo from Me You Us is a wonderfully crafted and incredibly versatile intimate accessory, designed to deliver exceptional pleasure and satisfaction. Offering a sensation that’s even better than real, this non-phallic dildo features a gentle curve and realistic texture. Expertly contoured for targeted stimulation, this sexy dildo is made from body-safe, hypoallergenic silicone that is easy to clean, ensuring both comfort and hygiene.
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Dildos designed for strap-on play come with a flared base, which allows them to fit into a harness. You will love the amazing variety of dildos available – there is truly something for everyone, from very realistic to neutral, available in all shapes and sizes imaginable. Make sure the receiving partner is comfortable with your choice.
Key features and benefits of strap-on dildos:
Browse our full range of exciting strap-on dildos and get the fun started!
If you want our advice, we recommend the blue 6-Inch Curved Silicone Dildo from Me You Us (see picture).
The rechargeable Soft Touch vibrating strap-on set from You2Toys is the perfect choice for those new to pegging. With an adjustable harness (up to 120cm) and removable 10-speed vibro-bullet, the slender shaft is great for beginners. The strap-on dildo is made from premium, soft, yet firm silicone that is body-safe, hypoallergenic, and phthalate-free.
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Strap-on vibrators are the same as normal strap-on dildos, but with the added bonus of vibration. These sensations dispense extra thrilling stimulation into your strap-on play, for both the wearer and the receiver. The shafts are generally thick and firm and vibrate powerfully, and there are plenty of colours, sizes and modes to choose from.
Key features and benefits of strap-on vibrators:
Intrigued? Check out our complete collection of buzzing strap-on vibrators.
Want us to decide for you? The purple Soft Touch Silicone Rechargeable Vibrating Strap-On by You2Toys is our favourite in this category (see picture).
The Get Real strap-on harness by ToyJoy gives you the ultimate in sexy role play. Designed for pleasure, this high-quality harness has a soft and comfortable fit, with a padded cushion in front and adjustable straps that fit most body sizes. The 3 silicone rings (3.5, 4.5 and 5cm) let you attach your favourite dildo, while the inside pouch can hold a vibrating bullet to add an extra sensual dimension to your play.
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Adjustable strap-on harnesses are perfect for combining a harness with your favourite dildo. These harnesses are typically compatible with any dildo that features a flared base, suction cup, or testicles. Make sure the harness fits you properly so that you can wear it comfortably during penetration. The harnesses feature many colours, styles and designs. Once you’ve found something you like, check that the O-ring on the harness will fit the dildo’s diameter.
Browse our full range of comfortable strap-on harnesses and find the right fit for you.
Need help finding a good all-rounder harness? Consider the ToyJoy’s Get Real Strap-On Harness (see picture).
Pleasure your partner with the erotic thrill of penetration with the Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner’s Strap-On For Him Dildo. This is perfect for her to strap-on and penetrate her lover’s anus, for a deeper sexual experience. The size and ease of use make it great for beginners’ pegging play.
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If you want to add strap-on play to your bedroom repertoire but aren’t really sure where to start, then a strap-on kit is your best bet. The strap-on sets are fantastic for experimenting with your partner. They provide all you need – a harness and a compatible dildo. And then all you need to do is go wild. Switch roles, take control, and explore new sensations.
Key features and benefits of strap-on sets:
Shop our full range of enticing strap-on sets and get ready to enjoy a whole new world of fun (and don’t forget the lube!).
A tricky decision, we understand. If you’d like us to decide for you, we recommend the Fetish Fantasy Series Beginners Strap-On For Him Dildo (see picture).
The innovative Plena II double penetration strap-on set from XR Brands features two dildos, a smaller one for the wearer that includes a clit-pleasing nub, and a larger, sleek one to penetrate her partner. Includes a sexy adjustable hardness that won’t come loose in the middle of the action.
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Double strap-on either allow both partners to enjoy the penetration simultaneously or one partner to experience the blissfully full feeling of double penetration. These designs are typically held in place by harnesses or cock rings.
Key features and benefits of double penetration strap-ons:
Can’t wait? Browse our full range of seductive double strap-ons and get going!
Or if you want to check out our top pick – consider the Plena II Double Penetration Strap-On (see picture).
The Double Teaser 2 is a unique strapless strap-on featuring a flexible double vibrator design. The shorter, distinctly textured massager is inserted into the vagina and secured by the vaginal muscles. This allows the partner to enjoy the longer vibrator, which also boasts an arousing texture.
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Strapless strap-ons are double strap-ons that do not require a harness to keep them in place. Instead, these strapless penetrators are held in place by the wearer’s pelvic floor muscles, with the other, typically longer end of the two shafts, used to pleasure and penetrate the receiving partner.
Key features and benefits of strapless strap-ons:
Have a browse through our full range of strapless strap-ons and see which one catches your eye.
Shall we pick for you? You’ll love the Vibrating Strapless Strap-On 2 Remote Double Teaser (see picture).
The white Erection Assistant hollow vibrating strap-on from Nasstoys gives your penis an instant upgrade. Insert your member into hollow cavity of the 6-inch realistic strap-on vibrator to add instant girth – but the device is also suitable to be worn by women. The Erection Assistant features a jock-style harness that comfortably accommodates most sizes (up to a 60-inch waist), press the button to the bottom right of the base to power it on, and to cycle through 7 vibration functions.
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Hollow strap-ons enhance your natural penis, ensuring you always have a strong, lasting erection. Simply place your package inside its hollow space. This strap-on allows you to pleasure your partner with extra length and girth – some models even have a vibrator embedded to really supercharge the experience.
Key features and benefits of hollow strap-ons:
Take a look at our range of hollow strap-ons and see what takes your fancy.
If you asked us, we’d recommend checking out the 6-inch Erection Assistant Hollow Vibrating Strap-On in flesh pink (see picture).
The dual penetration thigh strap-on by Sportsheets allows you to discover new sexual adventures. The lap strap is built on a flexible, wide band and the soft, stretchy neoprene material is very comfortable to wear. The set comes with two fully sewn and reinforced nitrile O-rings (measuring 1.75 and 1.25 inches) that firmly hold the dildos of your choice.
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For those seeking erotic domination and humiliation play, these unique face strap-ons and thigh strap-ons offer the perfect solution. The strap-on toys are very popular for lesbian sex but increasingly also ordered by straight couples.
Key features and benefits of face and thigh strap-ons:
Browse our kinky range of face and thigh strap-ons and find your fave.
A best-selling item is the Thigh Strap-On Band Dual Penetration from Sportsheets (see picture).
Embrace your journey of self-expression with the flesh pink Skinlike Limpy 5-inch packing cock from Lovetoy. This versatile packer is specially crafted to cater to individuals transitioning from female to male (FTM), providing a realistic and convincing bulge in your pants complete with head, shaft, and balls.
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Packers create the lifelike bulge under your clothes that you are after. Whether you opt for a natural bulge or want to display something truly extraordinary, packers allow you to enjoy the feeling of a penis comfortably situated in your underpants. Packing dildos convincingly imitate real penises, including a realistic head and testicles, while packing underwear perfectly holds your new friend in place.
Key features and benefits of packers and packing underwear:
Check out our full range of packers and packing underwear.
A popular choice among our customers is the Lovetoy Skinlike Limpy 5-Inch Packing Cock in flesh pink (see picture).
Firm up your strap-on game with this Vac-U-Lock Crystal Jellies Set from Doc Johnson. This deluxe strap-on kit includes a comfortable unisex harness (adjustable up to 69 inches/175cm), 3 removable O-rings of different sizes, the patented Vac-U Plug and Vac-U-Lock suction up base, plus 4 thrilling, translucent pink dildo attachments, and essentials to keep the you going. And of course you can also use these magnificent dildos on their own, they even come with a suction cup attachment for wild hands-free play.
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The innovative Vac-U-Lock system by Doc Johnson features a collection of strap-on dildos, harnesses and adapters that can be combined to create your own pleasure experience, a bit like a Lego for adults.
Key features and benefits of Vac-U-Lock dildos and accessories:
Shop our entire range of Vac-U-Lock dildos and accessories, and use a quality lube in your play for maximum fun.
If you want to firm up your strap-on game, take a look at the pink deluxe Vac-U-Lock Crystal Jellies Strap-On Set (see picture).
