How to buy sexy lingerie for your partner

Buying the right lingerie as a gift can be difficult. You can’t simply go for items that you think are sexy, assuming she’ll feel the same. It’s important to find something that suits your partner’s taste and turns you on as well.

One of the most important aspects of lingerie is that it needs to make her feel confident and sexy. This will make your one-on-one time feel more intimate, uninhibited and full-on.

In order to save you from aimless browsing, we’ve created a lingerie buying guide to help you figure out the most important things to look for when buying something special for your partner.

What is lingerie?

First things first. Well, ‘lingerie’ comes from the French word ‘linge’ which means linen. This is because underwear used to be made exclusively from linen. However, these days the term refers specifically to underwear which is designed to heighten sex appeal and visual enjoyment by accentuating and ornamenting the body.

So, you know what it’s for – now let’s talk about how to buy it.

The lingerie buying guide checklist

Choosing the right colour

There are 101 colours to choose from with lingerie. Plain pastels, patterned florals, vibrant neon, sexy black and fiery red, the choice is endless. The very first thing you need to consider is your partner’s preferred colour. You might love the idea of something red, but if they don’t, they won’t wear it.

Try to find something that matches with their general style. Do they wear darker colours or light, summery colours?

Often, if your partner wears a specific colour in their everyday wardrobe, they’re comfortable in that colour because they enjoy how it matches their skin tone. That’s a great place to start:

  1. You know they like the colour, and
  2. You know that it’s something they’ll feel comfortable in
  3. Happy + comfortable = more confidence in the bedroom

Be original

You don’t want to buy her something she already has. Not just because it’s a waste of money, but also because if you buy something she’s already worn in bed with you, she’ll think you aren’t paying attention – disaster!

You’ll need to search for something similar to her go-to choices, but not the same, so make sure you have an idea of her existing lingerie pieces in mind before you go shopping. If something looks familiar, stay away.

Understanding her taste and style

Everyone has aspects of their bodies that they aren’t too fond of. You might think every little bit of her is perfect, but she might not agree.

To make her feel comfortable in the lingerie you buy, you should consider the types of clothes she normally wears. Does she like to cover her shoulders, her cleavage or her back?

Although you may not agree, try to get on board with selecting items that make her feel better about any insecurities. (Tip: no need to ever mention your selection strategy, ok?)

Remember, the more secure she feels, the better sex will feel for both of you.

Assessing how far to go, and how far is too far

Lingerie selection can be tricky. You need to ensure that you buy something that suits your partner’s tastes as well as your own.

If your partner is usually quite conservative in the bedroom, then going for a black bondage set probably isn’t going to be the way forward. If you go too far too soon, she might think that you’re unhappy with her normally conservative style, which could make things awkward or even affect her confidence.

Stick to what you know. There’s no harm in pushing things a little, but don’t go straight for the opposite end of the scale, as it could cause you a headache later. Try broaching the subject of your raunchier ideas over tea one day, and see how she responds.

If you’re looking for a sexy surprise for your partner, check out the Amorable Babydoll with G-String (pictured).

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Amorable Babydoll With G-String Black | Babydolls & Chemises | Rimba | Bodyjoys
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Amorable by Rimba presents this delicate black lace babydoll in soft, see-through material that enhances your natural assets and flatters your figure with adjustable straps.

If you are looking for something sensual and flirtatious, check out the Cottelli Curves Bralette Suspender Set (pictured).

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Cottelli Curves Bralette Suspender Set | Bras & Bra Sets | Cottelli Lingerie | Bodyjoys
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The Cottelli Curves range presents a sensual combination of satin and lace with this elegant bralette and crotchless suspender set. The sexy criss-cross straps accentuate the cleavage and highlight a delicate lace ’V’ which directs your lover down to the invitingly open crotch.

For a classic, look no further than the Cottelli Backless Babydoll With Thong (pictured).

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Unleash your inner seductress to tempt your lover with this transparent babydoll from Cottelli Lingerie with accompanying lace cups. The metal O-ring brings the whole piece together, adding a touch of bling, while the straps under the breasts provide support and highlight your natural curves.

Yes, size does matter

Sorry to tell you, but size does matter! Especially when it comes to your partner’s lingerie. Buying the wrong size can be disappointing, and may even cause offence! So it’s best to be on the safe side.

There are two sizes you’ll need to know before buying a lingerie set. Take a peek at your partner’s cup size to determine which size to buy for the top or bra (e.g. 36A, 34B, 38DD, etc). Separately, match the underwear size with her clothing size (this will be an even number between 8 and 28).

Buying the right size guarantees that it will fit and be comfortable for her to wear. Comfort in the bedroom means she’ll soon forget what she’s wearing and pay attention to the sensations, leading to a pleasurable experience for you both.

Consider washing

Whether or not it’s you that’s going to be washing the clothes, you have to consider that anything you or your partner wears in the bedroom will need to go in the wash.

Check out the care instructions of the garment and make sure that it can be washed with a delicate load. You might not want to buy something that she can only wear once.

Browse our full range of sexy lingerie sets and choose from flattering high-waist, kinky wet-look, elegant fishnet or lace.