Embracing sex during pregnancy
Pregnancy is a hugely transformational time in any woman’s life, so it’s essential to maintain a healthy lifestyle throughout. Aside from eating the right things and plenty of exercise, a healthy sex life during pregnancy can also keep your muscles moving, provide a healthy release of endorphins and maintain a strong connection between the expectant couple to prepare for parenthood.
For many pregnant women and their partners, sex can be a huge worry, with concerns about the safety of the mother and baby and the comfort of penetration. But in most cases, continuing with your normal sex routine is not only safe, but beneficial.
To help you navigate through this exciting period, we’ve put together a list of the best positions and the best sex toys to use during pregnancy.
The best sex positions for pregnant women
Spooning
Spooning is a comfortable and intimate position that allows both partners to relax. The pregnant woman lies on her side, and her partner curls up behind her. This position minimises pressure on the abdomen and provides support.
Cowgirl
The cowgirl position, with the woman on top, gives her control over the depth and pace of penetration. It also allows for face-to-face intimacy, fostering an emotional connection between partners.
When using this position, make sure that both partners are comfortable and don’t overwork the thigh muscles as this could induce slight sciatica, which is common during pregnancy. Switch positions frequently to avoid putting the pressure on the same muscles continuously.
Cowgirl solo play
If you’re alone and the mood strikes, it’s also important to be able to fulfil your desires safely yourself. It can provide a much-needed boost of endorphins and reduce stress, which is always good for the baby.
Some toys work perfectly with the cowgirl position, allowing you to gently control your level or penetration, while providing the level of stimulation you need.
G-spot vibrators are designed for safe internal stimulation. It’s best to opt for a curved, body-safe vibrator that allows for gentle exploration. Always ensure the material is free from harmful chemicals and easily cleaned.
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Gradually work your way up to full vibration mode to explore the level you’re comfortable with. As always, if something starts to feel uncomfortable, stop.
Some G-spot vibrators can be found on cushioned surfaces or ‘love chairs’ to mimic the real cowgirl position. These will help to support the extra weight and give you the lift that your ligaments might be struggling with, especially as you get further into pregnancy.
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Missionary modification
If missionary is more your bag, then never fear. This sex position is possible during pregnancy with a few minor alterations. Place a pillow under the expectant mother's hips to elevate them slightly, reducing strain. This modification ensures comfort while maintaining the intimacy of the position.
If missionary is your favourite position, but it’s becoming more difficult due to the growing baby, then waterproof toys may be the answer. Using a waterproof dildo or vibrator in the bath may provide the woman with the release she needs, while the water naturally makes her feel lighter and more easily penetrable without any discomfort.
This is the toy on everyone’s lips (literally!). Leading luxury toy brand Lelo offers an innovative design with the blue Lelo Ina Wave 2 triple-action massager. Inspired by the gentle caress of a lover’s fingers moving inside you, the shaft undulates in a rocking, come hither motion, stimulating your G-Spot for the most intimate massage possible.
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Doggy with a pillow
For some couples, the doggy position can also be comfortable during pregnancy, as long as you avoid strain to the hips and stomach. Just tuck a pillow under the abdomen to reduce the pressure on the belly. This position isn’t recommended in the third trimester though, due to the increased weight that the woman needs to bear.
Indulge yourself in your wildest fantasies with the fantastic Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Position Master cushion. The slanted flocked cushion creates complex positions with ease and keeps you comfortable so you can lay back and enjoy.
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Clitoral stimulation
For many women, it’s clitoral stimulation, not just penetration that really hits the mark and this is a nice compromise if sex isn’t feeling quite right at later stages of pregnancy. Increased foreplay can leave both partners satisfied while focusing purely on external erogenous zones.
Clitoral vibrators are the ideal solution, concentrating the vibrations to mimic hand movements or even oral sex. Choose a vibrator with adjustable settings to control the intensity. This type of toy allows for external pleasure without direct impact on the abdomen and will likely result in a powerful orgasm too, whether solo or as a joint adventure with your partner.
The cerise Lelo Sona 2 creates even gentler sonic waves and pulses to stimulate your entire clitoris, hence also the parts that you don’t see, which is very different to conventional vibrations. Thanks to Sona 2’s larger and deeper opening, you can now experience a gradual build-up and then a completely new orgasmic sensation with a prolonged mind-altering climax.
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Staying safe during sex in pregnancy
Although sex is normally perfectly safe during pregnancy, it’s important to seek medical advice if you feel any pain or discomfort at all.
Remember to:
- Speak to your midwife before attempting any new sex positions.
- Listen to your body, if it doesn’t feel right, then stop.
- Use positioning cushions or other sex furniture for support and to reduce the pressure on your body.
- Experiment with different placements to see what feels best for you.
- Always use toys with body-safe assurance or in medical grade silicone.
- Clean all toys with a reliable sex toy cleaner before and after use to avoid harmful bacteria build up.
The Clean Spritz sex toy cleaner from Me You Us provides a convenient and efficient solution for maintaining the optimal condition of your treasured toys. Designed to ensure a hygienic experience, this toy cleaner effectively eliminates bacteria and germs, preserving the cleanliness of your toys. Simply apply the cleaner directly to your sex toys, rub it on, and wipe it off for a pristine finish.
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Embracing intimacy during pregnancy can strengthen the bond between partners, and incorporating sex toys can add a new dimension to your relationship. Prioritise safety, communicate openly with your partner, and enjoy exploring the world of sensual wellness together. Remember, every pregnancy is unique, so choose toys and positions that align with your comfort, desires and overall well-being.
You may also want to take a look at our blog Three of the best sensual sex toys for pregnancy.