Shower sex is a sought-out fantasy for many people, mainly because of the way it’s portrayed in films and TV. But in reality, most people are disappointed the first time they venture into the unknown realm of water play because it doesn’t look or feel as sexy as they’ve seen the film stars do.
So, why isn’t shower sex meeting your expectations, and how do you fix it?
Before you continue down the shower sex route, it’s important to understand that most people feel the way you do the first time. But there are ways to fix it, and make shower sex into the pleasurable ride you’ve been fantasising about.
First, let’s take a look at the main shower sex issues that people experience.
Natural lubricant produced during arousal is fairly thick and slippery and most lubricants that you can purchase on the market follow suit. This allows for smooth, comfortable and pleasurable penetration by reducing the friction on the sensitive areas of skin.
Water simply doesn’t match up. Because of the minerals in water, it’s rough on the skin and doesn’t actually reduce friction at all. In fact, it intensifies it. While you might see people in the movies penetrating with no build up and no lube, this isn’t realistic and trying could cause discomfort, pain and a whole lot of awkwardness.
Water just isn’t lubricant, so it may be beneficial to equip yourself with a lube that you can keep in the shower cubicle for those spontaneous shower scenarios – zero prep required, just like the movies.
Remember to choose a silicone-based lubricant for water play. This is because water-based lube isn’t waterproof and will wash away in seconds. Silicone remains for much longer, removing the need for constant application. A good choice would be the Millenium glide from ID Lubricants (pictured).
The ID Millennium silicone lubricant is based on an extremely potent and powerful formula. The slip is so strong and long-lasting that only a few drops will last for hours and the lube will even stay slippery when you play under water. ID states that this lube is never sticky, never dries and never loses slip!
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You’ll need to make use of the space you have available to you, so focus on all erogenous zones and pleasure points to create a varied experience without the need to constantly switch up positions.
Pay attention to the nipples, neck, earlobes and inner thighs. Using your hands to experiment with your partner’s whole body will create greater sensation and a bigger build up to climax to make up for the lack of position options.
Prepare yourself! It’s important to know what to expect during shower sex as the water, heat and small space will create different sensations compared to sex in the bedroom.
There are tons of sex toys out there to help you prepare your body for the extra sensation, meaning you can learn to bridge the orgasm gap in the shower too.
Many dildos now come with a suction base and are completely waterproof. These are designed specifically for solo shower play, meaning you can pop the dildo on the wall and enjoy penetration as though your partner is there already. For instance, with the clear 7-inch Ultra Cock Jelly Dildo from Me You Us (pictured).
Whether you’re a beginner or a sex toy connoisseur, this translucent, 7-inch Ultra Cock dong from Me You Us will do the trick. With a classic, realistic shape and exciting ridges along the shaft, this body-safe jelly dong has a flexible yet firm texture that feels amazing for either vaginal or anal penetration.
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Also check out the range of waterproof butt plugs and clitoral suction vibrators, perfect to enhance your splash sessions. Take a look at the Renegade Anal Plug Set and Lelo’s Sona 2 Clit Sucker (pictured). Please note that the Sona, due to the silicone material, is not compatible with silicone-based lubes.
With this triple pack of Pleasure butt plugs, Renegade brings you the perfect anal training kit. These three anal plugs, varied in size, provide a safe and fun way to ease into deeper backdoor delights. Made of sleek, odourless TPE with a flared base to ensure safe and secure wearability, these butt plugs are suitable to use with all types of lubricant.
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The cerise Lelo Sona 2 creates even gentler sonic waves and pulses to stimulate your entire clitoris, hence also the parts that you don’t see, which is very different to conventional vibrations. Thanks to Sona 2’s larger and deeper opening, you can now experience a gradual build-up and then a completely new orgasmic sensation with a prolonged mind-altering climax.
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Many male masturbators are also waterproof to allow you to get used to the sensation with the added wet element. Check out the self-lubricating Glow-In-The-Dark Stroker by Blush, or go hands-free with the Shower Therapy Milk Me Honey Masturbator (pictured).
The versatile Rize Luz Stroker is packing pleasure. Equipped with soft ticklers and a delightfully soft, ribbed canal, this self-lubricating masturbator will get you there with just a splash of water, or saliva to ease your way. With multiple suction chambers, the magnificent glow-in-the-dark stroker will unleash new realms of pleasure to any shaft size during solo, or foreplay, if you’d like to invite your partner to share the fun.
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Don’t compromise on your self-care and enhance your pleasure game with the Shower Therapy Milk Me Honey Stroker from PDX Plus. Designed with your privacy in mind, the masturbator was crafted to mimic the appearance of a regular shampoo bottle so that it will effortlessly blend into any bathroom without raising suspicion or eyebrows. The realistic masturbator with vagina opening in a tan skin colour comes with an inner sleeve that features a super-detailed skin texture and an intricate interior tunnel lined with rows of pleasure nubs that will rock your world!
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When actors get in the shower on films you see their rippling abs and the water just lightly draining from their muscles or breasts. But real showers aren’t like that. If you have a waterfall shower, then you might feel more like a drowned rat than an Adonis and this can damage your confidence.
For women, there’s also nowhere to hide. Your makeup is gone, and your hair won’t be in the perfect position that you styled in the morning, unless you choose to wear the sexiest of shower caps. The important thing to remember is that everyone in a shower sex scenario has these same worries. You are not alone!
Closeness is key, both emotionally and physically in the shower. Show your lover just how sexy you find them. Kissing, stroking and constant body closeness and grinding will develop a closer connection between you, removing any self-consciousness and making you both feel comfortable.
Remember, there’s nothing sexier than confidence. The other person will have the same worries as you and feeding into those will create an awkward sex session for both people. Try to move your focus away from appearance and towards touch and sensation.
This is easier in a shower if you’re forced to be close together. Keep touching, kissing and ensuring your bodies are always close. This creates enhanced intimacy and you’ll have a blast.
