Disagreement is a part of all relationships at some point. In fact, it’s probably not the best relationship if you agree on everything. You’re bound to experience a few spats and arguments here and there. It’s not the end of the world, as long as you can make-up and move on afterwards.
Have you ever felt more turned on in times of high stress? Well, it turns out that that’s completely normal.
After a huge row, the thing that makes least sense is to want to jump straight into bed with each other. But it’s exactly what we do. After the dust has cleared and the screaming has stopped, all you want to do is rip each other’s clothes off.
It’s because fighting causes anxiety, which increases your heart rate, blood flow, and rate of breathing. These responses are all similar to those of sexual arousal. That heart-hammering excitement starts up inside of you, and you need to release it – literally!
All that adrenaline and sympathetic nervous system stimulation can make sex more potent. Every touch feels more exciting, and that built-up tension makes orgasms feel more exhilarating.
The answer depends on each individual couple. Provided you both enjoy it, make-up sex can be a great way to reconnect after an argument. Just as long as great sex doesn’t replace the important conversations you may need to have about any important issues in order to move on and keep growing together.
The relaxed feeling you get after sex with the release of endorphins can actually leave you in a better mindset for discussion. You might be able to relate to your partner a little better and feel less defensive, paving the way for you to resolve the conflict.
On the other hand, if you’re not quite ready to forgive, having sex too soon after an argument can have unfavourable consequences.
Sex is better with intimacy; you can’t really argue with that. If you’re having sex when you’re still angry, this can lead to less than pleasurable experiences or greater disconnection.
A bad sexual experience after an argument can make you even more distant and can be upsetting for both parties.
Even if your sexual encounter is a great one, it can mean that you push unresolved feelings to the back of your mind. Sex doesn’t remove the issue, so if it’s not resolved, it will come up again later.
Make-up sex can be healing. It relieves stress and can spice up your relationship. But that doesn’t mean that make-up sex is always the answer to your problems. A few things to remember:
Appreciate your partner and their differences. Sex is about making each other feel good. Don’t let anger make you selfish during sex. Being attentive and making sure they have a good time will make you both feel better.
