7 steps to improve your sex life with your partner

Being in a long-term relationship can be rough sometimes. Life, work, and kids just get in the way of your connection, and sometimes it can be difficult to make time for each other.

One of the most important things to remember, no matter what life has in store for you, is that you’re a team and you need to maintain a close connection. Sex is something that is between just the two of you, and it helps you to keep your bond strong.

To keep your sex life fresh and avoid those long-term ruts, here are a few top tips.

1. Kegel exercises

It’s important to maintain your sex drive, whether through sex itself, masturbation, or other methods, such as kegel exercises.

Kegel exercises using kegel balls will help to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. You should practice with kegel balls every few days, or as often as you can. This practice is used by pregnant and postpartum women to maintain vaginal health, and it can also make your orgasms more potent by tightening the vaginal muscles.

This means you’ll enjoy sex more, and look forward to it more. Read our kegel balls guide to learn more about kegel exercises. You’ll find special kegel exerciser sets for these workouts in our shop – personally, we recommend the Svakom Nova Kegel Exercise Balls (see picture).

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Use these expertly designed Nova exercise balls to maximise your kegel exercises, strengthening, tightening, and boosting circulation in your vagina as you pulse. Each of these three weighted balls comes with a silicone string to ensure easy retrieval, and the balls themselves are made of body-safe, waterproof silicone.

2. Communication

Communication is a key part of a successful sexual relationship. Topics to include are how you’re feeling about sex, how often you want it, where you’d like to have it, and anything that you really want to experience together in bed (or elsewhere).

Make sure to be as open and honest as possible, and choose your moments carefully.

3. Explore new places

Sex doesn’t need to stay stuck in the bedroom. In fact, couples who are more adventurous tend to find that they can maintain a healthy amount of sex in their relationship for longer.

Remember that sex isn’t just about planning ahead for when you have time. If the mood takes you while you’re cooking dinner or out in the woods for a walk, embrace it! The excitement and surprise will keep your desire for one another alive.

4. Be intimate

Don’t just focus on the end goal! Make sure you share intimate moments that aren’t necessarily leading to sex.

Cuddling up together on the sofa and spending longer periods of time just kissing is a way to create intimacy without getting down to business.

Maybe you want to try out a massage candle to enhance intimacy and enjoy a blissful night with your partner. Take a look at the Lelo Snow Pear And Cedarwood Flickering Touch Massage Candle (pictured).

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5. New positions

It’s easy to fall into missionary habits. If that sounds familiar, try switching it up with some new positions. Having the same experience every time, even when it feels good, can make you feel as though things are getting stale. Try something new – if you need some inspiration, take a look at the Kama Sutra Sex Positions Playing Cards (pictured).

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Get ready to spice up your game nights with the thrilling Kama Sutra playing cards! Step into a world of excitement as you embrace this chic and stylish card set, boasting 54 cards adorned with unique Kama Sutra sex positions. Will you and your fellow player(s) have the willpower to resist temptation, or will you dive headfirst into this exhilarating game?

To increase intimacy during sex, try being on top while your partner sits on a chair or on the edge of the bed. It allows you to keep your arms around them and look into each other’s eyes while you’re enjoying the sensations.

Spooning together on your side is also a wonderful way to maintain body contact at all times and keep that closeness.

6. Sex toys

Introducing sex toys into the bedroom will help you both to become more confident in exploring each other’s bodies, and give you plenty of new sensations to try and enjoy.

Simple sex toys such as vibrators or cock rings can heighten stimulation for both of you – pushing you both to new levels of pleasure and bringing excitement back into the bedroom.

Take a look at our sex toys for couples for inspiration. Alternatively, we recommend heading straight for the Lelo Tiani 3 Couples Luxury Massager (see picture).

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7. Make the first move

The portrayal of sex in movies and culture makes it common for women to expect men to make the first move. But actually, men and women are equally sensitive to rejection, and members of both sexes have different preferences in being approached.

If you’ve previously given a few too many ‘headache’ excuses, it could explain why your partner has stopped trying to initiate sex. They might feel that it’s not worth risking another rejection.

If you normally let your partner initiate, try being the one to make the first move once in a while. They’ll be so shocked by your confidence that success is practically guaranteed.