Top sex positions and sex toys for seniors
As we age, our bodies may undergo changes, but the desire for intimacy and connection remains a fundamental aspect of human nature. As we gracefully navigate life’s journey, it's crucial to recognise that staying sexually active isn’t just natural but also incredibly beneficial for our overall well-being.
The benefits of sex for seniors
Sex should be celebrated, no matter how old you are, and sexual activity, whether alone or with a partner, can have huge benefits for your physical and mental health. Sex can improve your cardiovascular health by keeping your heart and lungs working at their best and also release endorphins which help with pain relief. Regular sexual activity also reduces stress and can be really effective in improving your confidence by supporting a positive body image.
Communication is key
Before embarking on a sexual journey to uncover the best positions and sex toys for seniors, it’s essential to highlight communication. Always be open and honest about your desires and fantasies and address boundaries and comfort levels with your partner. Sex may be uncomfortable for some, so you should feel empowered to discuss this openly, increasing your intimacy.
Finding a comfortable sex position
For those suffering with stressed joints or other chronic pain, a spooning position relieves the pressure and allows for comfort and relaxation during sex, making penetration much easier. Alternatively, if you’re looking for something a little more intimate, laying down sideways is a good way to minimise this joint pressure, but also maintain eye contact and ability to touch each other easily.
Modified sex positions for seniors
Modifying popular positions can give you the stimulation you need without feeling any discomfort. A missionary position can easily be made more comfortable by wedging a pillow underneath the hips to remove the pressure.
But if doggy style suits you a little better, then perhaps try lying on your belly with a cushion under the hips to give the required height. This reduces strain on the knees during longer sessions.
There’s a whole range of positioning cushions or sex furniture out there including sex stools, vibrating pillows and sex swings which could enhance your ability to stay nimble and create the thrust required without causing discomfort.
Indulge yourself in your wildest fantasies with the fantastic Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Position Master cushion. The slanted flocked cushion creates complex positions with ease and keeps you comfortable so you can lay back and enjoy.
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Senior friendly sex toys
Sex toys are wonderful things to introduce to your sex life, broadening your horizons, expanding your fantasies and, best of all, allowing you to practise solo too. There are several sex toys out there that are perfect if your hands or joints aren’t what they used to be.
Remote-controlled toys
A remote-controlled love egg or vibrator can provide hands-free fun for solo play or with a partner. It removes the need to sit at an awkward angle to operate the toy and provides easy accessibility to change the settings, increasing stimulation to tailor your pleasure.
Introducing the revolutionary remote-controlled, wearable bullet vibrator from Svakom – Elva. With its array of diverse modes and intensities, Elva promises an exhilarating exploration of pleasure. Its long-lasting, powerful motor is quiet as a whisper, barely audible from 1 meter away, and can be used with or without a remote control for an extra naughty night out.
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Ergonomic shaped vibrators
Ergonomically shaped vibrators are designed with easy G-spot stimulation in mind. They hit the spot immediately during penetration to avoid vigorous thrusting or contortion.
The Sassy G-spot vibrator from the Pillow Talk collection is a luxurious and powerful massager that leaves no desires unfulfilled. The vibe features a soft and flexible body and the large tip is perfectly curved for maximum G-spot stimulation. Sassy is sculpted to target your internal pleasure zone, firmly and repetitively vibrating against your G-spot to give you the most blissful vaginal orgasms. The delicate contour with the ergonomic curves on each side adds to your pleasure.
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Masturbation strokers
To stimulate the penis, a penis stroker is an excellent way to escalate solo fun or shared intimacy without penetration. If sex ever feels uncomfortable or difficult, then foreplay may be the way to go. Mutual masturbation can actually be more intimate than penetrative sex.
Illuminate your darkest pleasures with this pocketed glow-in-the-dark masturbator from Lovetoy’s Lumino Play collection. The masturbation stroker is infused with non-toxic glow-in-the-dark powder that emits a colourful, visible blue light. The stretchy material slides up and down your shaft, and the textured tunnel massages your member for intense stimulation.
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Vibrating cock rings
As we age, erections can be a little harder to retain due to blood pressure and hormone changes. A vibrating cock ring can provide both the wearer and partner with extra stimulation and works to keep the blood in the penis for a longer-lasting and harder erection.
You and your partner will love playing with the Satisfyer Power Ring cock ring vibrator. This smooth, body-safe silicone ring nestles flexibly around the penis, giving you a longer, stronger hard-on, while the ribbed clit stimulator tantalises with every thrust, offering pleasurable benefits for you both. This vibrating cock ring, which comes with 10 vibration settings, is a great beginner’s couples’ toy, easy to use and super-stimulating.
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Extra safety and stimulation for seniors
It’s important to feel comfortable and safe during sex. The ability to let yourself go and fully immerse yourself in the experience is part of the enjoyment.
Lubricants
After menopause, women can experience ‘dry walls,’ which means that the normal moisture that makes penetration easy, smooth and enjoyable isn’t produced. This is completely natural, but can be off-putting if sex becomes uncomfortable.
Finding a good lubricant is the best remedy and makes sex feel normal and natural. Water-based lubes are a great option, especially if you plan to use sex toys too.
Lubido’s water-based natural feel lubricant enhances sensation and makes your sexual experience smoother and more sensual. It is a very versatile glide that improves pleasure and sensation during any type of sexual stimulation, be it vaginal, anal, with sex toys, or during masturbation.
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If you’re planning an aqua adventure, then a silicone-based lubricant may be a better option because it’s waterproof. Remember, silicone-based lube shouldn’t be used with silicone sex toys as it may erode away the body-safe coating.
The ID Millennium silicone lubricant is based on an extremely potent and powerful formula. The slip is so strong and long-lasting that only a few drops will last for hours and the lube will even stay slippery when you play under water. ID states that this lube is never sticky, never dries and never loses slip!
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Soft restraints
Playing with restraints can be a fun way to take your sex life to the next level. The ability to trap your partner exactly where you want them is a huge turn on. But it’s important to remember that skin does get thinner as you age, so soft restraints are a must!
Try out some soft handcuffs or ankle cuffs and make sure your partner knows to stop if the friction builds in those areas.
Punish your lover with these Velvet and Velcro wrist cuffs by Ouch to restrain even the naughtiest of submissives. This kinky compliance ensurer is made of soft, durable material, to provide a sturdy restraint whilst maintaining comfort and flexibility.
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Penis sleeves
As with a cock ring, a penis sleeve can help to maintain a stronger erection for longer. It’s the perfect way to please your partner and get some extra stimulation using the exciting nubs and bumps to tease you thrust.
Increase both the length and girth of your cock by incorporating the Choose Your Adventure vibrating penis sleeve set from Selopa to your play. The set with 5 distinctive sheath designs will elevate your sexual encounters with captivating textures and powerful vibrations. An enhanced and gratifying experience is guaranteed.
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£25.99
Embracing intimacy in the later stages of life is a natural and important aspect of your overall well-being. By focusing on communication, comfort, and the right sex toys for seniors, you can enjoy fulfilling and satisfying sexual adventures for years to come.
You may also want to check out our blog on Embracing sex during pregnancy.